Costa Chit Chat

Summer´s in the air and time to think of relaxing somewhere sunny and fun, a place where you really feel that you are on holiday. If you have clicked on to ABOUT ME you will know that lucky me, I live in such a place.
Nerja is a beautiful town just around 50 kilometres from Malaga. Although it´s a tourist spot it manages to maintain very much its village feel. That´s down to the people here that never tire of arranging and taking part in all kinds of celebrations that are pure tradition and year after year they are celebrated with the same enthusiasm. There is hardly a month of the year that doesn´t have some kind of fiesta.
In June we celebrate the eve of San Juan with bonfires and bbq´s on the beach and July is the turn of the Virgen del Carmen who is carried through the streets and finally taken out to sea on her own boat, beautifully decorated with flowers and accompanied by a fantastic firework display. In August there is a three day festival called the Festival of the 3 Cultures, it´s held in the very nearby village of Frigiliana, only nine kilometres up the mountain road from Nerja.
If you click onto VIDEOS there is a video of Nerja and I have some photos too.
We are only a bus ride from Malaga and Granada, two beautiful, historic cities well worth visiting.
OK that´s it, have I sold you on the idea? Will you be on the next flight over?

Hey why not, maybe we´ll meet up one day, I always spend the summer here!!

Let Joy be your feelings,
Love your attire, and you will discover a mystical paradise
Here on earth.


Michael Levy.

Untying the Shrivelled Knot.

What makes funkyfifty ladies decide to divorce their husbands of 20 or 30 something years?
And here I´m talking about the WOMEN who make the decision and just DO IT!
A possible reason is that once the offspring are off out into the world and you´re left home alone with hubby dearest you realise you now live with a stranger. Those little things you found so quirky are now just bloody irritating and endless droning on about the Champion League is enough to send any funkyfifty who´s still worth it flying off the nearest balcony!
Economical issues and retirement on the horizon can cause huge cracks in the most solid unions.
Disagreements on how and where the next 20 something years will be spent is a startling wake up call for many happily marrieds.
But what if you simply feel you are being taken for granted and you have always made the excuse... Yes but deep down...... until one day in a sudden flash of pure insight it dawns on you there is NO deep down, that ship has long sailed!
My own current long term relationship has travelled a long and pretty bumpy ( well full of pot holes really) road. There have been some good times but now on reflexion I´m beginning to think the bad times are getting badder than the good times were good!
That´s probably an exaggeration and I´m mostly to blame, it´s not constant quarrels and disagreements, just a slow shuffle of getting on with doing your own thing and needing your own space etc........
What will eventually happen? Will I be one of those brave ladies charging alone into old age?
Deep down do I prefer my own cranky company? Is that what I really want?
If you have untied your own shrivelled knot and have never looked back or felt better - Ata girl!!
Let´s hear it, sister!!!



How many stars in your bowl?
How many shadows in your soul?


D. H. Lawrence.

You Don´t Need an Invitation to Your Own Life!

Well of course you don´t, but women worry and care about family and friends and sometimes the question arises-- Am I living the life I really want?

People who have the ability to live in the moment are extremely lucky, but what happens to partners and children? Is it selfish to reach a point where all you want to do is exactly what you feel like doing?
This gives rise to another very important question that can hit you like an ice pick between the eyes-- Have I still got time to live the life I really want? Can I take that first step?

All you brave funkyfifties who have had the courage to standstill and completely change direction forsaking all!! Share it with us!!!!




The past has fled, what awaits you is yet absent,
but the present is yours............


Arab Proverb.

Very First Post.

Hi to everyone out there and welcome to my blog. I´m not a writer and this is something completely new for me, so just humour me ! My idea for this space is that all us funkyfifties connect and look at all the major issues that concern us from every angle and point of view.
I know that they are issues that concern other age groups, but for women 50+ they are especially complicated, we no longer have youth on our side and have sometimes lost the zest of bouncing back, so maybe together we can lighten the load for each other.

Here I´ll just throw a few at you.

We´ll start with getting older and being reminded of the fact every time you look into the mirror-no matter that you only FEEL 28! what you see is proof of something else!!!
Coping with divorce at 50+ is so not like coping with it at 30+ you´re caught not only with your confidence sagging!
Teenagers from hell can cause any funkyfifty to lose it and perhaps I´ll leave this one as I could write a book on it. And some!
Job loss is a big one--loss of status and self-esteem. For many women it signals the closing of a very important chapter in their lives and adjusting to a new lifestyle, not to mention budget is extremely hard. If illness strikes it´s a lonely and frightening time, no matter how much support is on hand. Caring for old and ailing parents can be demanding and desolate if it´s all down to you.
But whoaaaa before depression sets in let´s turn this around!
Flip the coin and we funkyfifties are out there looking great and enjoying satisfying relationships OR our OWN company, top of the professional tree or looking forward to new ventures or planning a well earned retirement and what do I know?
Whatever the place you´re at right now, we are all daughters, sisters, wives, mothers, in laws, grandmas and friends at a very special time in our lives and I´d like us to share our experiences, opinions, dreams, disappointments, fantastic moments- all of it!
We are still very definitely worth it and we can be honest and helpful and hilarious for each other. From now on this is your space, whatever´s on your mind just unload here!

Youth has gone-
Fifty years is a long way to look ahead
But looking back it doesn´t seem any time at all!
What´s life all about?
Unknown Author.